Hi friends,
I am so happy i am typing again,the last time i did was on sunday,i have had a reallly busy schedule this week...
i had a wonderful experience today...
I was to deliver some goods to a man today somewhere around ikeja,ARIK AIRWAYS precisely,he bought an external hard disk and a sata cable.it was a beautiful drive down there,you know it is not easy to enter an air contioned car,with my seat belt well fixed i relaxed in the executive car to an airport i had never been to before.i got there earlier than expected, in about 20 minutes time,i ws sitting directly gave me the most beautifful smile i had ever seen,
i smiled back off course,{its not everyday you see a white man smiling at you},we negotiated the price for some time,i was a little surprised because most whites i have come accross hardly negotiate price with you,they only ask you what the price is and pay,but this man was special,he kept negotiating until he was satisfied,it was only thanks to God that i didnt loose at the end of the transaction .What fascinated me most about this particular white man was his hospitality,immediately after greeting me he asked me in a very polite tone:"water or coffee?"i was so shocked that i had to ask"ehn?"funny enough,he repeated himself politely.I requested for water,as i was really dehydrated.another strikimg thing about this man was his smile...he smiled from his heart,and believe me it was captivating.My stay there was a beautiful one,i got there when a plane was about taking off,mehn the noise was terrible,but the sight was beautiful,i have always being really fasciated with planes,infact my mom told me i had always said i wanted to be a pilot since i was a child,,{very funny right},i know that i might never get to be a pilot,the first and most important reason is the fact that i am not a science student and i dont intend to be one... well even if i cant be a pilot,i would always keep my fascination with planes dear to my heart....
Where am i going with all this plane issue?
HOSPITALITY
WHY ARE NIGERIANS NOT HOSPITABLE,EVEN CHRISTIANS?
The very first thing this wonderful man spoke about wasnt money,it was what to offer me,THAT IS HOSPITALITY!f you are reading and you think,well nigerians are hospitable,i have a question for you"how many times have you visited a nigerian man and the first thing he is offering you is something to eat or drink?"if at all you can remember anyone then its probably just one or two.Nigerians are too selfish and its bad,let me state at this junction that i am a Nigerian and i am proud of it anytime, anyday,but the truth needs to be said...and the bitter truth is we are selfish but we just haven't realised it yet!
Let me give you a story to further prove my point;
I went to deliver some goods to a nigerian women sometime ago,as in a very rich married nigerian woman.....
it was a very sunny afternoon,i could feel; the sun blazing through my skin as i walked,my eyes kept shifting from one house to another, i had little or no idea about where i was going.The description i was given kept ringing through my head,fear gripped me as i was scared of getting lost..it was a quiet and remote area
My eyes caught a fine house on my left,it was the only house in that estate that fitted the discription i was given,i decided to try my faith hoping and praying that it was the exact house i was looking for.
I knocked,
no answer
i knoked again,
still no answer
The horn of a car behind me caught my attention,i looked briefly before but later ignored it ,my eyes went back to the gate,at the same time my knuckles began working on the metal gate....The woman in the car alighted and walked towards the gate,i trid greeting her but she was on the phone,i excused her so she could enter
she entered and kept going,with the gate opened,i remained where i was,still hoping that someone would attend to me,but no one did.After about five minutes time,the woman on the phone signaled to me and told me to come with her,
I gladly did,at least i didnt have to stay in the sun another second,mehn! i was tired.
we walked the staircase together,with the woman still on the phone!,it took her about ten minutes to finally open the gate(dont serve two masters works sometimes,out of experience)
But she did,finally!and i got in,happy i would get a seat,if not a glass of cold water(if i hear)
i got into the quite big house,i saw about five chairs in the sitting room,i was so happy that i at least my butts would have the opportunity to feel just one of them(if i hear,again!)...the woman strolled into the room,without saying a single word to me,i stood at the doorpost watching and waiting for...you know now!i kept standing until i realised i had stood for about thirty minutes,doing nothing but watching and waiting!
The wonderful woman was still on the phone,talking to some bank official...as if i care
When she finally had my time,she checked the products i brought throughly,i mean throughly..i was prayinng in my heart that she wouldnt complain because the last thing i wanted to do at that time was talk,but she did complain and i did talk, as in really talk,she said in a skull hitting tone:"i am getting pissed off with your services!"..i just stood there begging and still hoping that she would remember to offer me something(if there is life there is hope,abi?)..
I am proud to tell you that i left that woman's house without taking a single thing, my butts did not even grace her so called couch,the most annoying thing was she had a bumber sticker right there at the back of her car..a christian probably....what would you call that....HOSPITABILITY right,(if i hear,again).
That was my situation,i went back still dehydrated,even the water i took couldnt stop the hunger and tiredness,please compare the scenerio of the white man and the Nigerian woman,is there no difference?omo difference dey plenty abeg,now back to my question..why are Nigerians not hospitable?
If you are still arquing with me, let me ask you another question,when a nigerian man recieves a plate of food from someone,what's the first thing that comes to his mind,poison things abi?,why is it different with the whites?.I read books a lot,especially christian fiction,and i have noticed over time that the last thing on a white's mind,when he receives a gift is poison,the simple reason is their transparency,they are so transparent that you can practically see their heart through their eyes,I am the very last person in the world to talk about transparency,i am so not transparent,you can be with me for years and never really know me,but i believe that with a little more effort on my side,i can be...I think the issue with we Nigerians(myself inclusive)is the fact that we see everyone as a suspect,the reason most is as a result of past experiences,but we forget that we cant control the way people treat us,we can only control the way we react to the way people treat us!
please love yourself enough to love other people,it takes a balanced self image to really love others....Be humble enough to offer people something to eat or drink even if it's just water,they will really appreciate....i heard JOYCE MEYER say and i believe:"humulity is not thinking less of yourself but thinking about yourself less"the next time you have a visitor,please insist they take something,i said INSIST,if you are buying a drink,dont ask:"do you want a drink?"if i were that person i would say a big NO,because it is embarassing,instead of asking why not buy the drink and then let the person refuse,it is just simple courtesy....
If you live in an apartment with just one bed and you have a visitor,please be kind enough to give away your bed,and sleep on the couch(that's kinda hard to swallow right?),it's a choice that i hope you choose,but if you don't you would miss the satisfaction that comes with helping someone in need,yes you might not get anything in cash or kind but you have blessed a life,the best way to bless a life is through sacrifice...Guys dont just chat your guests to the latest gists with their stomachs empty,give them something to drink,girls please do same,i am sure you would be proud of yourself when you are done....I LOVE YOU ALL AND THANKS FOR READING!
I am so happy i am typing again,the last time i did was on sunday,i have had a reallly busy schedule this week...
i had a wonderful experience today...
I was to deliver some goods to a man today somewhere around ikeja,ARIK AIRWAYS precisely,he bought an external hard disk and a sata cable.it was a beautiful drive down there,you know it is not easy to enter an air contioned car,with my seat belt well fixed i relaxed in the executive car to an airport i had never been to before.i got there earlier than expected, in about 20 minutes time,i ws sitting directly gave me the most beautifful smile i had ever seen,
i smiled back off course,{its not everyday you see a white man smiling at you},we negotiated the price for some time,i was a little surprised because most whites i have come accross hardly negotiate price with you,they only ask you what the price is and pay,but this man was special,he kept negotiating until he was satisfied,it was only thanks to God that i didnt loose at the end of the transaction .What fascinated me most about this particular white man was his hospitality,immediately after greeting me he asked me in a very polite tone:"water or coffee?"i was so shocked that i had to ask"ehn?"funny enough,he repeated himself politely.I requested for water,as i was really dehydrated.another strikimg thing about this man was his smile...he smiled from his heart,and believe me it was captivating.My stay there was a beautiful one,i got there when a plane was about taking off,mehn the noise was terrible,but the sight was beautiful,i have always being really fasciated with planes,infact my mom told me i had always said i wanted to be a pilot since i was a child,,{very funny right},i know that i might never get to be a pilot,the first and most important reason is the fact that i am not a science student and i dont intend to be one... well even if i cant be a pilot,i would always keep my fascination with planes dear to my heart....
Where am i going with all this plane issue?
HOSPITALITY
WHY ARE NIGERIANS NOT HOSPITABLE,EVEN CHRISTIANS?
The very first thing this wonderful man spoke about wasnt money,it was what to offer me,THAT IS HOSPITALITY!f you are reading and you think,well nigerians are hospitable,i have a question for you"how many times have you visited a nigerian man and the first thing he is offering you is something to eat or drink?"if at all you can remember anyone then its probably just one or two.Nigerians are too selfish and its bad,let me state at this junction that i am a Nigerian and i am proud of it anytime, anyday,but the truth needs to be said...and the bitter truth is we are selfish but we just haven't realised it yet!
Let me give you a story to further prove my point;
I went to deliver some goods to a nigerian women sometime ago,as in a very rich married nigerian woman.....
it was a very sunny afternoon,i could feel; the sun blazing through my skin as i walked,my eyes kept shifting from one house to another, i had little or no idea about where i was going.The description i was given kept ringing through my head,fear gripped me as i was scared of getting lost..it was a quiet and remote area
My eyes caught a fine house on my left,it was the only house in that estate that fitted the discription i was given,i decided to try my faith hoping and praying that it was the exact house i was looking for.
I knocked,
no answer
i knoked again,
still no answer
The horn of a car behind me caught my attention,i looked briefly before but later ignored it ,my eyes went back to the gate,at the same time my knuckles began working on the metal gate....The woman in the car alighted and walked towards the gate,i trid greeting her but she was on the phone,i excused her so she could enter
she entered and kept going,with the gate opened,i remained where i was,still hoping that someone would attend to me,but no one did.After about five minutes time,the woman on the phone signaled to me and told me to come with her,
I gladly did,at least i didnt have to stay in the sun another second,mehn! i was tired.
we walked the staircase together,with the woman still on the phone!,it took her about ten minutes to finally open the gate(dont serve two masters works sometimes,out of experience)
But she did,finally!and i got in,happy i would get a seat,if not a glass of cold water(if i hear)
i got into the quite big house,i saw about five chairs in the sitting room,i was so happy that i at least my butts would have the opportunity to feel just one of them(if i hear,again!)...the woman strolled into the room,without saying a single word to me,i stood at the doorpost watching and waiting for...you know now!i kept standing until i realised i had stood for about thirty minutes,doing nothing but watching and waiting!
The wonderful woman was still on the phone,talking to some bank official...as if i care
When she finally had my time,she checked the products i brought throughly,i mean throughly..i was prayinng in my heart that she wouldnt complain because the last thing i wanted to do at that time was talk,but she did complain and i did talk, as in really talk,she said in a skull hitting tone:"i am getting pissed off with your services!"..i just stood there begging and still hoping that she would remember to offer me something(if there is life there is hope,abi?)..
I am proud to tell you that i left that woman's house without taking a single thing, my butts did not even grace her so called couch,the most annoying thing was she had a bumber sticker right there at the back of her car..a christian probably....what would you call that....HOSPITABILITY right,(if i hear,again).
That was my situation,i went back still dehydrated,even the water i took couldnt stop the hunger and tiredness,please compare the scenerio of the white man and the Nigerian woman,is there no difference?omo difference dey plenty abeg,now back to my question..why are Nigerians not hospitable?
If you are still arquing with me, let me ask you another question,when a nigerian man recieves a plate of food from someone,what's the first thing that comes to his mind,poison things abi?,why is it different with the whites?.I read books a lot,especially christian fiction,and i have noticed over time that the last thing on a white's mind,when he receives a gift is poison,the simple reason is their transparency,they are so transparent that you can practically see their heart through their eyes,I am the very last person in the world to talk about transparency,i am so not transparent,you can be with me for years and never really know me,but i believe that with a little more effort on my side,i can be...I think the issue with we Nigerians(myself inclusive)is the fact that we see everyone as a suspect,the reason most is as a result of past experiences,but we forget that we cant control the way people treat us,we can only control the way we react to the way people treat us!
please love yourself enough to love other people,it takes a balanced self image to really love others....Be humble enough to offer people something to eat or drink even if it's just water,they will really appreciate....i heard JOYCE MEYER say and i believe:"humulity is not thinking less of yourself but thinking about yourself less"the next time you have a visitor,please insist they take something,i said INSIST,if you are buying a drink,dont ask:"do you want a drink?"if i were that person i would say a big NO,because it is embarassing,instead of asking why not buy the drink and then let the person refuse,it is just simple courtesy....
If you live in an apartment with just one bed and you have a visitor,please be kind enough to give away your bed,and sleep on the couch(that's kinda hard to swallow right?),it's a choice that i hope you choose,but if you don't you would miss the satisfaction that comes with helping someone in need,yes you might not get anything in cash or kind but you have blessed a life,the best way to bless a life is through sacrifice...Guys dont just chat your guests to the latest gists with their stomachs empty,give them something to drink,girls please do same,i am sure you would be proud of yourself when you are done....I LOVE YOU ALL AND THANKS FOR READING!
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